You Don’t Have to Stay Stuck In Obsessive Thoughts, Emotional Chaos, or Relationships That Pull You Away From Yourself
A different way to understand and move through limerence
Limerence can make your inner world feel overwhelming, like your thoughts aren’t your own, your emotions are running the show, and your sense of stability keeps slipping out of reach. But this isn’t something you’re meant to stay trapped in.
There is a way to stay connected to your depth and sensitivity without being pulled into cycles that leave you feeling unstable or disconnected. This work is about helping you return to yourself, so that connection, love, and meaning can be built from something real.
You’re Trying to Understand Something That Feels Intense, Confusing, and Hard to Control
If you’ve found your way here, you may be feeling this
You may already have insight into what’s happening - you’ve read about limerence, tried to make sense of your thoughts, and maybe even attempted to pull yourself out of it. But something about this experience doesn’t fully resolve with logic alone. This is often where people begin to feel stuck - caught between understanding what’s happening and not knowing how to actually change it. This is the work I help guide you through.
Therapist, coach, and specialist in limerence and attachment
Hi, I’m Sarah
I help people move through limerence by combining lived experience with a deeper, more holistic approach to healing
My work is rooted in both personal and professional experience. I know firsthand how consuming limerence can feel - the obsessive thoughts, the longing, the confusion, and the sense of being pulled toward something that doesn’t fully make sense. For years, I tried to understand and “think” my way out of it, only to find that insight alone wasn’t enough.
It wasn’t until I began working at a deeper level - with attachment, the nervous system, and the underlying emotional patterns driving the experience - that things truly began to shift.
That’s what led me to specialize in this work.
Now, I help others navigate that same process - not by trying to eliminate their depth or sensitivity, but by helping them understand it, relate to it differently, and ultimately come back into themselves. My approach is both structured and holistic, integrating practical tools with deeper emotional work so that change feels not just possible, but sustainable.
I’m deeply passionate about this work because I’ve seen how transformative it can be, not just in reducing limerence, but in helping people build self-loyalty, reconnect with their lives, and experience relationships in a way that feels grounded, mutual, and real.
Training and Background
I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) based in Washington, with nearly a decade of experience supporting individuals in understanding and working through complex emotional and relational patterns. Over the past four years, I’ve worked extensively with clients navigating limerence, allowing me to develop a deep understanding of the patterns, dynamics, and underlying drivers that sustain it. My background includes a Bachelor of Arts in Philosophy from the University of Oregon (2011) and a Master of Arts in Mental Health Counseling from Antioch University Seattle (2016). I have completed Level One training in Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy — approaches that inform my work with attachment, trauma, and the nervous system.
The heart of this work
To guide sensitive, meaning-seeking individuals out of fantasy-based coping and self-abandonment, and into a life rooted in self-trust, connection, and reality-based aliveness
You Can Learn How to Move Through Limerence Without Losing Yourself in It
There is a way forward
Even if this pattern feels deeply ingrained, it can change. With the right support, you can begin to understand what’s happening, feel more grounded in yourself, and build relationships that feel steady, mutual, and real.
A Grounded, Honest Approach to Healing - Not Quick Fixes or Surface-Level Solutions
You’re not meant to stay stuck in this cycle
The work we do together isn’t about forcing change or trying to override your experience. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening beneath the surface and learning how to relate to yourself in a different way
I bring both structure and curiosity into the process - helping you make sense of patterns while also creating space to explore what’s coming up in real time. This is a space where you don’t have to perform, get it right, or rush the process. Rather than trying to escape or override difficult experiences, we work with them in a way that allows them to shift and resolve.
I also bring my lived experience as a queer, mixed-race person into this work. I understand what it’s like to navigate identity, belonging, and relational dynamics that don’t always fit into conventional frameworks. This informs how I approach the work - with nuance, openness, and care for the complexity of each person’s experience.
Outside of my role as a therapist and coach, I’m someone who is naturally curious about people and the inner worlds we carry. I spend a lot of time thinking, reading, and exploring ideas, but I also value real, human connection and the moments of meaning that come with it.
I can be a bit nerdy and occasionally awkward, especially when I’m excited about something. I tend to incorporate a lot of psychoeducation and neuroscience because I find left brain understanding helpful in containing right brain overwhelm. I laugh often, ask a lot of questions, and genuinely enjoy getting to know the people I work with. I believe that growth doesn’t have to happen in a rigid or overly serious way, it can include humor, curiosity, and moments of unexpected ease.
This balance of depth and lightness is something I bring into our work together.
